Pakipot

What is Pakipot?

Pakipot refers to a person (usually a woman in the context of traditional courtship) who pretends not to be interested in a suitor, even if she actually likes him. It is the art of “playing hard to get.”

Cultural Context

This stems from traditional Filipino values where women are expected to be modest and not “easy” to get.

• Testing Intentions: It serves as a way to test the suitor’s sincerity and perseverance (tyaga).
• Preserving Modesty: It protects the woman’s reputation.

Meaning for You

If she seems distant or hesitant at first, don’t give up immediately! She might just be being pakipot.

• Be Persistent: Continue your courtship (panliligaw).
• Be Respectful: Don’t be aggressive, but show you are serious.
• Read the Signs: Distinguish between pakipot (shy smiles, replying eventually) and genuine disinterest (cold, one-word replies, “basted”).